Thursday, March 11, 2010

Childhood Obesity - Too Far?



Imagine a chubby toddler, a few rolls remaining on her arms and legs from her months as a rolly baby. Little dimples in those legs that sometimes move faster than she can keep up with.

Do you find this picture cute? Normal? Or revolting? Do you think a chubby toddler is unhealthy?

Would you find it more pleasing if the child were described as skinny?

Childhood obesity has been labelled a modern epidemic. We hear about it through all forms of media: radio, television, newspapers, magazines and the internet. The topic is foremost in our brains when we see children, and so we hear it via discussions between parents, carers and families.

Yes, this is the key to solving the issue, wiping out this epidemic in the next generation. Creating awareness, through strong discussion and debate, is the only way to change the habits of a society. Knowledge is not just power, it is a necessity.

But, amidst it all, are we forgetting something?

Envisage this: a healthy, chubby seventeen-month-old toddler enjoying a piece of birthday cake at a party. A rare sweet treat. Surrounded by other parents and children, she devours it with great relish. A comment is made to the mother: "Don't worry. One day she will stop eating so much and then she'll be skinny".

At times like this, it is lucky that toddlers do not have a full understanding of all they hear and see. 

When did it become a bad thing for a child to enjoy food? At what point did a chubby toddler begin to be perceived as unhealthy and abnormal? And when did we, as a society, decide it was okay to make this kind of remark?

This is the newest problem with childhood obesity: the parental paranoia, the analysis of every child's weight at first glance and the assumption that 'fat' equals 'bad' while 'skinny' is 'good'.

Parents are experts in knowing their own children. We instinctually know so much about them, and we are taught to know all about their growth, development, learning and overall health. But one should never assume to be an authority on a child from another family. We have the knowledge to raise our own children, not the expertise to know what is 'right' or 'normal' for all others.

Fast forward a short time, where the toddler is a child. She understands more and more, and body image issues can begin with one simple comment, whether it is directed at her or overheard. Such a remark, even meant as a harmless joke, could have serious consequences throughout her life.

Unfortunately, we cannot control everything that our children hear. We cannot stop others from saying thoughtless things. What we can do is ensure that the messages within our own household are clear and positive. Knowledge is a necessity: our children need to know they are loved and accepted. They must be taught the difference between healthy and unhealthy, but this must be done by way of setting the right example.

Our role as parents is to take the focus on weight and place it into the context of our own family situation. Because the emphasis on overweight children must surely be starting to take its toll on the mindset of a generation. 

We need to be careful not to turn an international issue into a weight on innocent shoulders, a serious epidemic into an unhealthy obsession with appearance.


Megan 

9 comments:

ASBLACKASOBAMA said...

My 4 year old son is a tiny little man and my daughter is a chunky monkey....

Both of them are, and always will be, perfect little human beings.

It is unfortunate that we have to put labels on people.... People have no right to judge another person based on their appearance or lifestyle....

As long as my children are healthy and happy, that's what's important to me....

I Think It's Interesting

Kylie L said...

Great post. My son was an ABSOLUTE CHUBSTER as a baby- you could hide toy cars in the rolls of fat on his thighs. I got fed up with people commenting on it, especially as I knew it was largely b/c he was slow to hit his gross motor milestones (didn't crawl till 13 months, didn't walk till 19!!) and wasn't burning off what he was eating. But he ate healthily and slept well and that was all that mattered... now, at 10, he is a skinny streak. He weighs only 28kg though he is tall and eats everything- and now I get people telling me he is too skinny and I need to do something about it! People will always find something to criticise, it seems. I know my son is healthy and well nourished and that's all that matters- but yeah, I wish they'd all shut up!

Jane said...

The first time you told us about that comment, it made me SO angry. Abbey is a LITTLE GIRL for God's sake. She hasn't even had the chance to "stretch out" and grow into herself!

Some people are so stupid. Stupid stupid stupid.

Childhood obesity is a massive problem, and it does concern me. Particularly when I see things like a massively obese man walking around with his massively obese child, both of them eating iced finger buns at 7.30 in the morning. Or the overweight mother in the food court, shovelling Macca's into down the throats of her overweight children.

It's all about promoting healthy living. Who cares if a toddler has a few healthy chub rolls?! As long she's HEALTHY and HAPPY, that is all that matters. x

Julie said...

Wow, this makes me really sad. Why do some people feel they have the right to say whatever pops into their minds out loud?

The picture you painted at the beginning just makes me think of my little ones. My son (8 months) in particular always gets comments on being a big boy who eats a lot (particularly from my in-laws). I know they only mean it in a friendly way (and he hasn't had anything but breastmilk, vegetables, meat and fruit yet), but I sure hope the comments stop once he can understand!

Kellyansapansa said...

Couldn't agree more. No wonder eating disorders are becoming so prevalent.

Michelle said...

Ahhhhh!
I am on the other side, now healed from living with an eating disorder.
Lets look at the baby/person/child/human and not their shape.
Great post Megan.

Anonymous said...

I could not agree with you more megan your little girl is adorable and the fact that she is chubby has certainly nothing to do with what she will turn out to be as an adult, Yes Abbey has an appetite but might i add for things like sultanas fruit water and all things healthy it lovely to see a child enjoy good food and happily wander around doing what all children her age do explore, discover interact and just be the beautifull little people they were put on this earth to be. The people who make such comments need to look at what type of example they are setting their children.
tan

Kallie said...

One problem with all the media hoo-ha about childhood obesity is there are no parameters to set what is and isn't obese so people decide for themselves. This means that some who are overweight & possibly obese are claimed by their parents to be 'big boned' or similar. Others who are well within a healthy weight range are put on diets by their parents. My daughter is a well muscled, sporty girl. She has her times where she carries a bit of fat and then she grows becoming quite slim, for her. She's not fat, she's not overweight but she got teased about being so at one point because she weighted a fair bit more than many kids in her class. How did they know? Because the teacher decided to weigh all the kids and share their weights as part of a maths project. Grrrrr I was a very unhappy mother. Back to the point, my daughter is heavier than many girls her age but you stand her next to them and you can see the muscle on her. It's not that they're too thin or her too fat, they're unhealthy or she is, it's simply different builds, different body types. I've had to deal with the fall out from ill-conceived comments on more than one occasion and I'm sure I will do so again. In the meanwhile I'll keep feeding her a healthy diet, allowing her to play all the sport she does and reminding her that her body shape is not the only healthy one out there and not to judge others by her own size/weight. Oh and the Dr says she's not overweight let alone obese. He does tell me I need to lose some but possibly won't seeing as I'm middle aged now (rotten man who speaks the truth).

Permanently twenty three said...

The skinny / fat thing with children is really interesting. I think adults love the notion of babies being chubby and putting on weight - because 'baby fat' implies they're healthy and growing. But somewhere after babyhood and leading into toddlerhood, the tables turn a little and then that chubbiness somehow becomes bad.

At the end of the day, if a kid has a healthy diet, their parents don't feed them crap and they lead an active lifestyle, what's the problem?