Tuesday, June 22, 2010
Use Your Words
There are also phrases you find yourself saying to your kids repeatedly during the course of a day. This might become more annoying as they grow older, but with a toddler it's understandable; they need to be reminded of things quite often.
The most commonly used phrase in this household lately is, 'Use your words'.
I really believe it's important for children to express themselves. I find that encouraging Abbey to use her vocabulary can help to remove some of her toddler frustration.
Does that make me sound like a good mother? Okay, well now that we have that out of the way, I'll tell you the truth...
The main reason I do things this way is because I have a very low tolerance level for tantrums, screaming, whining or grunting noises. I'd rather hear Abbey speak than grunt or scream, so reminding her to use her words helps to save my sanity.
I don't respond to requests she makes in the form of a scream or a grunt. I look at her and say, 'Abbey, use your words please' and she will. Then, and only then, will I give her what she's asking for.
I also thank her politely for using her words and tell her how good that was. Because positive reinforcement is very, very important. See, I am a good mother really. I know that teaching a child is a lot like training a dog... oh, hang on, I've just dug myself into a hole there, haven't I?
What do you find yourself repeating to your kids? Or your pets (same-same)?
Posted at 6:59 AM