Friday, July 23, 2010
Raising A Hermit
There is one aspect of parenting that I struggle with. I've been struggling with it from day one, and still am to this day.
It's the social aspect.
Not for me - I have plenty of friends I can talk to about parenting. I mean for Abbey.
She does have lots of kids around her - she has six cousins, five of whom she sees regularly - and my friends' children. But they're all older and, while she loves older kids, I think it's also important for her to play with kids her own age.
That's where the problem is.
The mothers' group to which we were assigned in the early days was a big fat failure. So, while other mums go to playgroups with their mothers' groups, we didn't have that option.
We made some friends at our pre-natal classes, and we still see them, but it's very irregular. They are the only kids her age that Abbey really gets to play with.
A few months ago, I took her to a playgroup fairly close by, but I've only been able to make it a couple of times since. The other mums were lovely and the kids were all around Abbey's age, but the morning it falls on is often a bad time for me (I've had work obligations and other things on). So that hasn't really worked either.
The only other thing she has is swimming lessons, but that's not exactly a time to play with other kids.
I'd love your advice. If you're a parent - how often did your kids see others their age when they were little? Is it a vital thing to do regularly?
Am I a bad mother if I just have her playing at home by herself or with me and Steve most of the time? And if the only kids she sees regularly are older than her?
Of course, I know that she's a happy child, but should I be encouraging her social skills a bit more (not that they seem at risk of any problems - she's not exactly shy and reserved!). Am I raising my child to be a hermit like her mum?!
Posted at 6:57 AM