Tuesday, July 12, 2011
Our parenting style often raises some eyebrows. Because as much as people are angered that apparently kids don't climb trees anymore, they actually freak out when they see a child doing just that. (Luckily, Abbey can practice in our backyard!)
I often have other parents rushing over to me at parks - "Is that your daughter? She fell over!" - and while I appreciate their concern, I simply say thanks and tell them she's fine. (What I mean is, when she falls and gets up and dusts herself off before continuing to play. Of course I help her if it's more serious than that!)
We like to operate on two theories in this instance: firstly, that kids bounce off their parents' reactions so if we act calmly so does Abbey; secondly, just have fun! Climb, run, play, fall, keep playing.
Steve and I are most definitely not 'helicopter parents'. Nor are we 'free range parents' - we like to keep a good eye on Abbey, just without her knowing we are. (And I think other parents think we're not watching either - we're stealthy like that.)
We're somewhere in between, and perhaps a term like 'balloon parents' would be more suitable: always there somewhere, only just in view, floating in closely for a few minutes here and there before venturing into the background again.
There is not one parenting style that suits all, but this is right for us and for Abbey.
Posted at 6:56 AM