Tuesday, April 12, 2011

What happens when your fears are realised?


I recently wrote (over at Mamamia) about my struggle finding work. In that post, I wrote:
“There is some concern that all you’ve done is stay home for the last two years.”
And, just like that, I’ve been dismissed. Quickly swept aside.
I never expected to be on the receiving end of words like these. In fact, this was once my greatest fear and I took measures to prevent it from happening. At least, I thought that’s what I’d been doing.

That was my greatest fear.

It terrified me.

Do you know how liberating it is to have your big fear realised, and still be okay? To be more than okay - happier than ever?

I feel...

free.


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15 comments:

  1. SuzApril 12, 2011 at 8:56 PM

    Happy that you are happy. You're great xx

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  2. Princess KateApril 12, 2011 at 8:59 PM

    My greatest fear was being alone. And then it happened. I took it hard. It wasn't liberating. But then after a whole year as a sole parent, I realised that I was doing it. I realised I could do all the scary things I've been terrified of for years. I don't know whether I feel free, but I do feel capable, confident and brave.

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  3. BrendaApril 12, 2011 at 9:00 PM

    Well. They obviously don't know any better.x

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  4. CatApril 12, 2011 at 9:02 PM

    Brilliant! Free is about the best feeling there is. You should be so proud of your continued journey. I am so happy to hear it. Xxx

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  5. Diminishing LucyApril 12, 2011 at 9:57 PM

    And that feeling of being free gives you the energy you need to do whatever it is you want to do...:-) XX

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  6. Alice BecomesApril 12, 2011 at 10:17 PM

    yep, it is liberating

    you sound empowered! go for it!

    Gill xo

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  7. UnknownApril 12, 2011 at 10:28 PM

    I have had my worst fears realised many times throughout my life. It never feels free or liberating at the time, but often, once I've dealt with whatever has happened, it can be. But not always. Sometimes it just sucks.

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  8. Louisa ClaireApril 12, 2011 at 10:32 PM

    Don't take this the wrong way but when I saw your post title I was very worried for you. I'm glad you've been able to face this and feel free :)

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  9. CateApril 12, 2011 at 11:43 PM

    what a great post! And I'm with Louisa (above) - I was worried when I read the title...so yay for freedom!!!!
    xxxCate

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  10. Jodie AnstedApril 13, 2011 at 10:21 AM

    Absolutely freeing. xxx

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  11. KellieApril 13, 2011 at 4:45 PM

    Enjoy the feeling! :)

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  12. Kelly MortonApril 13, 2011 at 9:06 PM

    Good on you! Boourns to the Fat Cats. You don't need them x

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  13. Mocha LatteApril 14, 2011 at 6:25 PM

    My greatest fear used to be, being alone. Then like you, I became unemployed over 3 1/2 years ago. I am so scared that I will never find a job. This being at home, bored and wondering how my bills are going to get paid is what I am afraid of now. I feel like a failure!

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  14. Quaint MurmurApril 15, 2011 at 12:23 AM

    I used to work in recruitment, and I've seen people dismiss excellent CVs only because a person took time off to raise their kids.

    Every time we had to pass someone like that over, I'd wonder to myself if this is what life had become. The few people who take time to be a part of their child's life growing up, get passed over for work! It's so wrong and there's no justice to it.

    Yes, I'm an idealist and live in utopia. Sue me.

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  15. UnknownApril 15, 2011 at 11:48 AM

    First of all, I read your post and loved that you were featured. And yes, saying your fear out loud is freeing. And liberating. xx

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