Our generation is terribly spoilt. We have so many choices we don't really know what to do with them.
Steve and I are talking lots lately about our life: the pros and cons of our options consume us at times.
The one question I keep coming back to is a blight on modern life:
What if we regret it?
What if? What if we make the wrong decision? What if we regret doing it? What if we regret not doing it? What if we look back on our lives and wish we'd done something different?
It's a trap. The wrong way to live life; we can only do what seems right at the time.
It's time to take a new approach. I've decided to trust my instinct. That means being patient, letting things sort themselves out, and allowing my feelings to settle. Not forcing decisions, but tossing around ideas until one feels absolutely right.
That will be the one that seeps into my heart.
The other night I lay next to my man and said that I think whatever decision we make will be right. If we go with option A we'll love it, option B will be amazing, and so on.
There is no wrong decision.
As for the 'what if?s', well, I'd like to think that I'll look back on this part of this life of mine with one thought above all: the four of us were together. And I'll never, ever regret that.
My theme for life is 'live with no regrets'. So if I'm stuck on what to do, I ask myself, "What will I regret most?" That helps me decide :)
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Have just moved and feeling rather unsettled and conflicted tossing over whether its been a good decision/the right choice etc. Feeling really up in the air about just HOW do you choose where you want to live and put down roots when you cant really know a place until you actually make the move and then it may be very different than the imaginings. I needed to hear this today. Overthinking things a bit too much as I am want to do. Largely whereever you settle its what you make of it and who you are with at the end of the day. Told my husband I am hanging on to the lyrics of that song "Home is wherever Im with you"....makes it a little harder as he works away a lot but hanging on to the idea of that all the same. All the best with your decision making.
ReplyDeleteI had a similar revelation recently when whether or not to send Nick to school at the end of this month was all I could think/talk about. Of all the people I've spoken to - and there have been many - not one has regretted their decision, regardless of whether their decision was to wait a year, or send them anyway. Which made me think, "Whatever we choose will be right." And I think you have to live life like that. Our choices so far have led us to where we are, so they couldn't have been wrong? Great post, as always!
ReplyDeleteLiving without regret is such a difficult thing... but so liberating too. Similarly I've come to that conclusion that whatever option we choose we'll be happy. Staying true to ourselves and our values is the most important thing. And listening to our values will help us make the right decisions... full circle. Lovely post, Megan. x
ReplyDeleteThere will always be a few regrets here and there during our lives as we all make mistakes. But mostly those mistakes only make our lives richer and us wiser.
ReplyDeleteI try to live by the rule that if it feels right in my heart and my gut; do it. The only regret would be not trusting myself. xx
exactly, the four of you together is all that really counts. Good health and the choice to make a decision too, whatever the decisionn is. I too am often wondering should I make a big change, but I never do!
ReplyDeleteBeautiful Megan. So beautiful. I love throwing away the 'what if's, and enjoying the right now.
ReplyDeleteHappy New Year! xx
I think we eventually end up where we are supposed to be. Making the decision is the hardest part. Trust yourself, the rest will follow x
ReplyDeleteI agree, having such a variety of choices in life can be a blessing and a curse. But you have the right approach by thinking whichever you choose will have its benefits. And now that is an awesome space to be in. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteSo beautiful. I think we can only trust that we will make the decision that is right for us at the time, with the knowledge we have. I believe when we follow our heart and intuition we can't go wrong xx
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